Re: relationships on Yad VaShem form #general

Stan Goodman <SPAM_FOILER@...>

On Sun, 19 Dec 2004 15:19:20 UTC, exjxw.hannivoort@... (Evertjan.)

Stan Goodman wrote on 19 dec 2004 in soc.genealogy.jewish:

Actually, the form asks "What is your relationship to the deceased",
which seems clear.
Yes, to a genealogist.

No, to a normal human being
I like to think that even genealogists are normal human beings.

Two answers possible for the latter with the same relationship:

[I am his] grandson

[He is my] granddad
That is not the case. I have been asked about *my* relationship to X; *my*
relationship is that of a grandson to a grandfather; hence "[I am
his] grandson". I cannot answer the question with "grandfather".

"Grandson" and "grandfather" are both relationships. The question was: "What
is your relationship?" If I am his grandson, then my relationship is
"grandson". If I answer the question with a complete sentence rather than a
fragment (by removing your brackets, for example), the problem disappears:
"He's my grandfather" explains all.

It isn't a matter of being a genealogist or not; personally, I am an
engineer, for example, though I have many interests. It is instead a matter
of paying attention to the question before answering it. If you tell me that
"normal people" often don't do that, I am inclined to agree.

Stan Goodman, Qiryat Tiv'on, Israel

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