Re: What should I do? #general

Marlene Bishow <mlbishow@...>

From: "Trudy Barch" <>
"The young gal is telling me strongly not to include the 2nd wife or her children.
She says the 2nd wife was a mean person and they have not spoken to her since dad
passed away..."

Hi Trudy:

Since the woman's children are not the offspring of your cousin, I would not
include them (unless he adopted them), but I would include the name of his second
wife. I would try to explain to the young lady that it is not a good practice to
leave a spouse out of the record, even if they are not nice people. I would tell
her that you are leaving the children out because they are not related.

I personally would include the names of her children in the notes for her, with a
statement that they resided with their mother and her husband during their
formative years.

We walk a fine line when we are asked to change or omit facts.

Good luck,
Marlene Bishow
Immediate Past President
Jewish Genealogy society of Greater Washington
Project Manager Jews Buried in Arlington National Cemetery
Co-Chair 31st IAJGS International Conference on Jewish Genealogy

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