Re: reaching out to family #ukraine

Paul Wolf <pwolf1@...>

Send a note, but include whatever information you already have on the
family tree. Many first contact go sour because of suspicion about the
motives or authenticity of the contact. Providing information with the
first contact can help allay some of that natural skepticism. Include a
note that you will call in a couple of weeks to follow up, and include your
address and phone so they can contact you if they are really excited about
the contact. Getting the first good contact in a long separated branch of
the family often serves as a gateway to those not so enthusiastic.

[Paul Wolf]

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At 09:42 PM 11/23/2000 -0500, you wrote:
Please visit the Ukraine SIG web site
I need advice about the personal side of genealogy.

I have lists of names, and even addresses, of distant
relatives in America whom I would like to contact. My
grandparents knew their grandparents, my parents
corresponded with their parents, but time has passed
and I don't know them or their adult children.

I would like to make contact, ask about extant documents,
old memories, or traditions. But I don't want to be seen
as invading their privacy.

Will a discreet note, mentioning my purposes and also the
above issues, do the trick? If I get no response, should
I cross the name of my list?

I think I need advice >from folks who have been in this

Mark Saul
New York, NY

Researching: KAMENIR, RUBENSTEIN: Novograd Volinsky, Zhitomir, Berdichev
LISENCO, KOTANOV: Brailov, Rachni, Mogilev Podolsk
TELISHEVSKY: Gomel', Ekaterinoslav

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