Hungary SIG #Hungary Don't lurk because of a jerk #hungary


Dolph Klein <kledolph@...>
 

David,

A few years ago as a neophyte of genealogy, I encountered such a jerk as
described below by you and was also perturbed by the tirade of invectives.
Upon consulting with and receiving advice >from our sage moderator, I
refrained >from engaging the jerk any further. In the final analysis, these
people derive their pleasure when they can get a rise out of you and sense
your anger. Best thing to do is to ignore the bait and the fisher will look
elsewhere for more productive waters.

Dolph Klein
Chapel Hill, NC, USA

Western Slovakia & New York: KLEIN, GRUNHUT, DIAMANT, SURAN, ADLER, KOHN,
PRECZELMAYER, LOBEL, SOBEL, MORENO, POLLACK.
Transylvania, New York, Texas & California: DEUTSCH, PERL, FEIG, KATZ,
NEMET/NEMETH.
Israel & New York: KELLER, SINAI, GOLDSMITH

From: David Deutsch <ddeutschca@earthlink.net>


With regards to the lurking, I wasn't going to go into any detail concerning
my reasons, but in view of your comments, as well as the pointed annotation
by our moderator to my original post in this thread, in my own defense, I'd
like to state the following: As you and others may recall, I used to
participate far more actively in this group, until I had an unpleasant
experience in response to a couple of my posts, wherein one of the members
did not like what I said, and proceeded to berate me in private email, and
to a lesser extent, in the group as well. Not wanting to ignite a tit for
tat war of words (which I would expect the moderator to filter anyways), I
accepted the unpleasantness, said nothing, but decided henceforward that
lurking was the better part of valor for this group (at least >from my own
experiences' standpoint). It feels a little bit unfair that Louis should wag
his editorial finger at me, even if gently, for lurking and not
participating, when my only reason for doing so was to avoid the repetition
of a difficult experience >from someone in the group, or alternatively, a
distasteful confrontational exchange.

Kind regards to all,

David Deutsch

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