Ellen Gottfried asked how to tell which is the correct first name for
her relative Aaron KENIG, whose grave father's name is Judah (I assume
she meant Yehuda) on his grave but Abram on his social security
application. His birth record is not available.
There are two approaches that I see. First, he probably did his own
social security application, but little likelihood that he designed his
own grave marker, so the social security record is more likely to be
correct. This still leaves a lot of uncertainty.
However, there could be other records that might mention his father's
name, such as his death certificate or immigration manifest, which
could serve as a tiebreaker. If neither of those can be found easily,
his father's name should also be on similar records of his siblings,
assuming he had at least one.
New York, N.Y.