In a message dated 11/24/00 11:11:21 AM US Mountain Standard Time,
<< Will a discreet note, mentioning my purposes and also the
above issues, do the trick? If I get no response, should
I cross the name of my list? >>
I'd suggest making your letter short and to the point. Include a
self-addressed, stamped envelope. Send a copy of a photo that you think they
might be interested in, or share a story(a flattering one) that your parents
told you about the "new" relative's grandparents. . . . . .
If you get no response, don't cross the name off your list. We can never
know what is going on in the life of the person we're writing to. If you
don't hear after a few months, try a phone call. That's what I did. I wrote
to a cousin that I hadn't seen for many, many years. He didn't answer. Over
the period of about a year, I wrote him several more times explaining some
personal things I thought he might be angry about. He still didn't answer.
I finally called. And he was very nice. I was so surprised. He also said
he works 6, sometimes 7 days a week. He also said he's not good at getting
back to people. But he took notes on the family history I gave him over the
phone. So I know he's interested.