It undoubtedly will vary depending on what software you're using. I use Ancestral Quest, which lists same-sex spouses as Partner1 and Partner2, and shows each partner's gender accurately.
Deborah Blankenberg (JewishGen ID #613395)
Researching BLOCH/BLOCK (Germany to New York, Colombia and Missouri), BLINDER (Kishinev to New York via Poland? and Paris), KUSHER/KUSZER (Lodz vicinity to New York via Paris), GOLDSCHMIDT (Germany)