At 18:57 23/11/2021, David Harrison wrote:

Surely it does not really matter. She is still your grandmother and
always will be. If it is that important to you, why did you not ask
her when you were alive and met her? On the other hand, if your
mother did not ask her (or care) why should it bother you unless and
only unless some very frum (demonstratedly strict on his or her
observances) relation of your potential partner is kicking up a fuss
to prevent your marriage, or have you met Humpty Dumpty or the Red Queen.
David Harrison
Birninghan, England

What an unfair message!!!!

I wonder how many of us "genealogists" were that when we were young?

I am reminded of a sign hanging in my Landlady's entrance hall about
60 years ago: It was one of those wood rectangles into which the
words had been "burnt" so that the surface had singed:

There is so much good in the worst of us
and so much bad in the best of us
that it ill behoves any of us
to talk about the rest of us

David Lewin
London