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Phyllis Blumenfeld <pblumenfeld@...>
In the past few weeks, I have sent messages to people who have listed their
names and who and where they are searching gathered >from the Family Finder. I cannot understand why anyone would take the trouble to list family trees and other information to connect with possible relatives or at least others who are searching the same names and shtetls and then not answer them. This is not only frustrating, I find it downright rude. Even if you know there is no connection, an answer with a "no thank you" is welcome so that you know there is someone on the other end of the email. How many others have experienced this phenomenon? pblumenfeld@... Phyllis Blumenfeld POPS/FICHTELBERG..Dobromil/Lvov FISHKOWITZ...Dobromil BERMAN...Nowy Sacz/Gribow TRAURIG...Wisnicz/Israel BERNSTEIN...Lomza/Przasnysz SCHNALL...Tuckahoe, N.Y. BLUMENFELD/SUSSMAN...Podul Ilieu,Romania BLUMENFELD...Iasi/Pascani, Romania
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Jackie King <anglegerl@...>
I agree, that it is rude to never get a responce, or
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to not get one till abouut 6 months later. But, what you've also got to understand, is that someone may not have the time to respond to you right away. It may take them a few days, or even a week or so. It all depends on how often they check their email, and how busy they are at the time you send something to them. Hope maybe that helps u be less frustrated, or that it atleast maybe shows u the point of view of possibly one of the people u sent the messages to. -Jackie Searching: Chinitz, Brodosky (any spelling, Brosky too), Trachtenberg, Hahn, Bellin, Shulman, King.... --- Phyllis Blumenfeld <pblumenfeld@...> wrote:
In the past few weeks, I have sent messages to
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Howard Zakai
Phyllis,
I share your sentiments exactly. About a month ago I sent an email to over a dozen Genners who not only listed the same surname I am researching, but the same town or vicinity as mine as well. I got no more than 4 responses It's true people can change their email addresses or are simply very busy. [It sometimes takes a week or two for me to respond.] But, with all things being equal, it is rude and it is strange. I write a lot of emails and letters to people who are not part of the JewishGen community asking about family. I usually do not expect >from them a multitude of responses. With Genners, with the common bond we share, I would think a response would be a natural given. Howie Zakai Staten Island, NY
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Paul Goodman <P.Goodman@...>
I have also found this happening to me and agree totally with what you say.
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I find it baffling not to answer as when I've been contacted it always been to my benefit. Paul Goodman Folkestone, England Researching: GOODMAN / GUTMAN ( Liverpool, London UK; Baden Germany) ZEFFERTT ( Liverpool, London UK, Kutno Poland) JOSEPH (London UK)
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From: Phyllis Blumenfeld <pblumenfeld@...> To: JewishGen Discussion Group <jewishgen@...> Sent: Friday, September 13, 2002 6:14 PM Subject: family finder n the past few weeks, I have sent messages to people who have listed their names and who and where they are searching gathered >from the FamilyFinder. I cannot understand why anyone would take the trouble to list family treesothers who are searching the same names and shtetls and then not answer them.This is not only frustrating, I find it downright rude. Even if you know there
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Joan Parker <housemom@...>
Well, yes and no. It doesn't take that long to write a quicky note to say
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I'll get back to you, and at least acknowledge that particular email. I've done that when I get a message and don't have access to the info right away. I let them know I'll get back. Then I flag that message. Common courtesy doesn't take that long. But Jackie does have valid points. Joan Parker Miami, FL Searching: GOLDBERG and GOODSTEIN-Plock, Poland/Russia and Brooklyn, NY; PINKUS and WINOGRAD-Odessa, Ukraine and Brooklyn, NY; GELFAND-Minsk and Bronx, NY; YEHUDIS; KATZ, Bronx, NY
I agree, that it is rude to never get a responce, or
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IsraelP <zach4v6@...>
People lose interest. People forget. Your message may have been lost on
the way , misplaced or deleted by mistake or because of fear of viruses. Or maybe their response requires further inquiry. (Jacob sent Joseph on an errand and it took him twenty-two years to respond. He didn't believe in interim reports.) The response may have been sent but never reached you. Most of us have experienced this phenomenon. Wait a few weeks and resend - without a reprimand. And in the meantime, it's Yom Kippur tomorrow - give them the benefit of the doubt. Israel Pickholtz n the past few weeks, I have sent messages to people who have listedMODERATOR NOTE: Well, Yom Kippur is no longer tomorrow; it has passed by now. JewishGen puts the mailing lists on hold for Yom Kippur, and that is why this and other messages have been delayed.
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Peter Zavon <PZavon@...>
It's true people can change their email addresses or are simply veryPerhaps true, but until they do respond and tell you why they did not do so immediately, you have no way of knowing if the lack of response is: a) simply rudeness because they don't like you or something you said; b) short-term distraction and they'll reply in a week or so - or a month or three; c) they are no longer doing genealogy and never got around to removing their entries >from the Family Finder; d) they put your message aside to reply, and it got buried by other things - or lost in a hard drive crash; e) they, or a near relative, are in the midst of a serious medical crisis and they are not doing e-mail. In the meantime I suggest that we all recognize that no one is obliged to respond to any particular e-mail more quickly than they choose, if at all. And for a variety of reasons, some will not reply as quickly as the sender might wish, if at all. On my wall at work, I have posted the following epigram, which many passers-by have commented on favorably, and which is applicable here. "Never attribute to malice that which can be explained by ignorance." Perhaps it would work better here as "Never attribute to rudeness that which can be explained by distraction" It all boils down to "Don't think the worst of an action if you don't *know* why the action was taken." Value the replies you do receive and recognize that others may have different priorities. Accept silence as another part of the human condition. -- Peter Zavon Penfield, NY 14526 PZavon@...
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Stephen Mednick <lists.genealogy@...>
To assist people with their emails, whether they are for this list or for
other correspondence, people might like to click on the following link http://www.infinisource.com/lifestyles/effective-email.html for some simple Dos and Donts with email. Most of them are common sense but while this thread is going it might be an opportune time to remind everyone. Stephen Mednick Sydney, Australia steve@... Researching: MEDNICK (Kalius,UKR & London,ENG) SACHS/SACKS (Kalius,UKR & London,ENG)
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