The Lack of Common Courtesy and how it affects the Usefulness of this Forum #general


Beverly Shulster <gettingbttr@...>
 

Dave Schwartz wrote:

Over the years, I have >from time to time answered
requests for information on this forum. In all but
one instance, I never heard back >from the party...not
even a simple thank you.
<snip>
This has not been a single incident but rather the
rule than the exception. I wonder how many others
have had this experience and like me have vowed never
to respond again?

Dave Schwartz
Wimberley, Texas
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It has happened to me more than once and more than twice, but unlike
you I've received enough feedback to keep helping when I can. Don't
give up on people -- it only makes you feel bad.

Bev Shulster
Yehud, Israel


Lorraine Works
 

I send answers to questions with a "request read receipt". then I know for
sure that they received it. (This is found under Tools when using Outlook
and Outlook Express).

Lorraine Wise-Works
Searching for Wise, Weis, Breslauer,Nathan, >from Kempen Prussia.

Over the years, I have >from time to time answered
requests for information on this forum. In all but
one instance, I never heard back >from the party...not
even a simple thank you.

For example, recently there was a request for help in
finding a cemetery in a city where I was once a
resident. So I knew something about the cemetery in
question. The name had changed and was therefore
hidden >from the searcher. It took me a while, but I
finally found the cemetery and emailed the person with
instructions on how to find it...and heard nothing back.
This has not been a single incident but rather the
rule than the exception. I wonder how many others
have had this experience and like me have vowed never
to respond again?

Dave Schwartz
Wimberley, Texas


Dave Schwartz <superdayv@...>
 

Over the years, I have >from time to time answered
requests for information on this forum. In all but
one instance, I never heard back >from the party...not
even a simple thank you.

For example, recently there was a request for help in
finding a cemetery in a city where I was once a
resident. So I knew something about the cemetery in
question. The name had changed and was therefore
hidden >from the searcher. It took me a while, but I
finally found the cemetery and emailed the person with
instructions on how to find it...and heard nothing back.
This has not been a single incident but rather the
rule than the exception. I wonder how many others
have had this experience and like me have vowed never
to respond again?

Dave Schwartz
Wimberley, Texas


AK <alan.kolnik@...>
 

I have usually received tahnks and follow up. What is bizarre is that a
couple of days ago I received a nasty flame >from some genealogy
perfectionist who needs to get a life because I had answered a query about
Jewish origins by pointing out some websites with maps that trace Jewish
miogration patterns.

So not getting a response is not the worst thing that can happen ...

Alan Kolnik
alan.kolnik@verizon.net
Maryland, USA


Joan Parker <joanparker@...>
 

Sadly, it happens to too many of us. Recently a genner asked me about
Gelfand and Katz saying she had those two names in her tree....so I
sent what I had....never a reply, never yes we have a connection, no
we don't, absolutely nothing. I sent her another email checking to
see if she had received the information...no answer to that either.

Will her lack of response stop me >from responding to others? Not at all.
Hope springs eternal and maybe one day someone to whom I send family info
will respond with a positive connection. Same applies to providing how-to
info or finding something for somebody. Do unto others...equals random
acts of genealogical kindness.

Requesting a read receipt is not always returned as there is the ability
to refuse to send one.

Happily, I can say that most other genners are courteous and thankful for
whatever help I've been able to provide. Not only that, but it has ended
up with some new email friends whom I hope to meet in Las Vegas as well as
other email friends throughout the world.

Regards,
Joanie
Joan Parker, Immediate Past President
JGS of Greater Miami, Inc.
joanparker@intergate.com
Searching: GOLDBERG, GOODSTEIN, BERGER-Plock, Poland/Russia and Brooklyn, NY;
PINKUS, WINOGRAD, ROSEN-Brest, Litovsk; Grodno, Russia maybe Odessa, Ukraine,
Bronx and Brooklyn, NY;
GELFAND, YEHUDIS, KATZ-Minsk, Bronx, NY, Miami and Miami Beach, FL.