The lack of common courtesy #general


Yehudh bn Shlmo
 

Dear group,

I would like to say one thing before someone
terminates this thread. I myself always send a reply
and "thank you" whether the information is useful or
not. However, I normally only look at messages that I
am interested in, or that have the same subject I
posted to the group. If someone responds with a
different subject, I may miss it. And yes, I once
found a response in my Trash bin that I had not looked
at. But I am a member of a lot of groups and can't
open and read every email.

The point is, is that it is possible that some
reposes may not be looked at if the subject isn't the
same. However for all those that are read, a response
and thank you is certainly appropriate.

Finally, whether you get thanked or not for a
response that is useful or not, you still perfumed a
Mitzvah, which is what it is all about.

With thanks for giving me the opportunity to reply,
Yehudah BenShlomo


Eve Line Blum <eve.line.blum@...>
 

Answering Dave Schwartz, about his complaint dated 19 May 2005, I
want to say that I have answered around 300 questions here since
exactly ten years (also some others on the French SIG and also on the
French Cercle de Genealogie Juive website). I always received thanks
and in two or three opportunities it led me to a real friendship with
the people I helped. Yes, indeed, it's not friendly (and not polite)
not to take the time to say "thank you", but it doesn't matter and
it's not useful to bother about such rude people. As far as I'm
concerned, I don't help with the aim of receiving thanks, but just
because I love to help. If I receive thanks, it's ok. If not, I don't
mind. Let's just avoid to help them next time !
--
Eve Line Blum-Cherchevsky
Besancon (France)
and also
Cercle de Genealogie Juive (International JGS in Paris)
http://www.genealoj.org