Orphanage in Berdichev in 1920 #general
Does anyone know about orphnage or orphanages, possibly Jewish, in Berdichev
in 1920? And when and why a Jewish father who remarried after his wife's
death will send his son to it and not bring him to his new family? It doesnt
sound to me a traditional thing for a Jewish family...
researching: KITAICHIK (Bobruisk), FRIDMAN (Polotsk), GERSHFELD and
MILMEISTER (both Berdichev)
Lisa Lepore <llepore@...>
Irina -toggle quoted messageShow quoted text
Hard to know what was going on, but perhaps the new
wife was not Jewish, or did not keep traditional values.
I have a case like this in my family too - only they were
Catholic, not Jewish. The man divorced his first wife
because she was an alcoholic. [Divorce is not accepted
by the catholic church] He put his son in an orphanage at
first, then went on to marry a woman "who didn't like children"
I don't understand this because this man had a large extended
family who would have been able to help him raise the child, but
he chose the orphanage instead.
I can understand placing the child in the orphanage at first if
there was no one to care for him while the father was working,
or if the father had to travel for work, but like you, I don't
understand why they would leave the children there after remarrying.
One other thought in your case, maybe the wife became ill, and
was not able to care for the child either?
Sharon R. Korn <s.r.korn@...>
Irina Shub asked "why a Jewish father who remarried after his wife's
death will send his son to [an orphanage] and not bring him to his new
family? It doesn't sound to me a traditional thing for a Jewish family."
Sometimes the traditional Jewish practices were at least partly responsible
for this circumstance. When my grandfather remarried after the death of his
first wife, his second wife refused to raise his son >from his first
marriage. She was very traditional in her Jewish observance, but she was
forced into an arranged marriage which she didn't want, and refusing to
raise the child was apparently the only way she could rebel.
As I answered directly to Irina, it is always limiting to assume on
anything. Although I wish it were otherwise, we are no different than the
world at large. Currently an issue is spousal abuse in the Chassic
community. There are all kinds of substance abuse, infidelities (King David
comes to mind), crime, (Jack Abramoff !) etc. Having traditions doesn't
imply universal adherence to them.
Children could have been put in orphanges for phalanx of reasons: a second
wife didn't want the children; the second wife was not a physically strong
person; the child was wild (ADD/HD is not something new), the child was
dangerous; the adults didn't have enough money to support the child; the
father didn't have a heart....whatever. It might be interesting to trace
down stories (where possible) of what the other members of the family were like.