What was "proper mourning"/remarriage in NY in 1886? #general


A. E. Jordan
 

I am researching a Jewish family in New York in the 1800s. If I got it right with
the right certificates:

The husband's first wife dies at age 37 while they are living on Eldrige Street.
She dies on March 28, 1886 and leaves behind several young children. The husband
then remarries on July 4, 1886. That would make his second marriage less than
four months after the first wife dies.

Do you think he would have remarried that quickly and if so do you think he would
have been shunned by the community for not observing a proper period of mourning?

Next I find him in the 1890s in Brooklyn, NY. That must be just a coincidence but
moving >from Manhattan to Brooklyn in the 1880s was much more of an undertaking
than the subway ride it is today.

I am sure it is possible that he could have remarried in less than four months, but
curious what the reactions would have been or if it was common to remarry so
quickly especially when he had little children to look after.

Opinions?

Thanks

Allan Jordan


Meron Lavie
 

My paternal great-grandfather remarried after about 8 months. We're talking about
the 1880's here - men couldn't fry an egg then and would have no idea how to handle
a small child. Having small children would in and of itself be a reason to remarry
quickly - for the children's own good. I have no indication that he was shunned or
was in any way looked askance at, and he was religious. His brother waited about a
ear to remarry, but since he couldn't take care of his children single, he placed
the children in an orphanage.

In theory, I believe one is "supposed" to wait a year, but if there was none to
feed the children, this might have been ignored.

Meron Lavie

From: Aejordan@... [mailto:Aejordan@...]
I am researching a Jewish family in New York in the 1800s. If I got it
right with the right certificates: The husband's first wife dies at age 37 while
they are living on Eldrige Street. She dies on March 28, 1886 and leaves behind
several young children. The husband then remarries on July 4, 1886.


Snillop47@...
 

In Oxford, England,Salina LEVI, the wife of Israel Moses LEVI, died on 26 March
1872. He married, as his second wife, Sarah HARRIS, on 11 September 1872. They
married in a London synagogue, undoubtedly because that was her synagogue but they
continued to live in Oxford, where he died in 1890.

Harold Pollins
Oxford

Aejordan@... writes:
The husband's first wife dies at age 37 while they are living on Eldrige Street.
She dies on March 28, 1886 and leaves behind several young children. The husband
then remarries on July 4, 1886. That would make his second marriage less than
four months after the first wife dies.

Do you think he would have remarried that quickly and if so do you think he
would have been shunned by the community for not observing a proper period of
mourning?