I am trying to find the grave of my great grandfather's first wife who died in the 1860s at a very young age.  She was Miriam Ash Garfunkel (the daughter of Rabbi Abraham Joseph Ash) and the wife of Benjamin Marcus Garfunkel.  She had a daughter Hannah in 1861.  I know that they lived in St. Louis and Kentucky for a while and I think she died during that time.  I contacted the cemetery and they could only confirm that they have a "Mary Garfinkel" who died on October 18, 1863 who was 23 years old and from Russia.  The cemetery told me that there is a Michael Garfinkel buried in the same plot DOD January 4, 1864 who was 7 months old.  The plot is in Section C-P1.  I never heard about another child (which makes me think it may not be the right grave).  I know that Rabbi Ash came from Semyavitch, Horodno Province, Polish Russia and his daughter Miriam was born there as well.  If someone could take a picture of the grave and it provides her hebrew name, then I would know if it is the right grave.  Thanks for any help.
Debbie Garfunkel Popper
debbiepopper4@...

Hi Debbie,

Contact the St Louis Genealogical Society which has a Jewish SIG see https://stlgs.org/ access the communities section for Jewish.
also see the following  https://stlgs.org/research-2/congregations/jewish ask them if they could visit the grave and take a digital photograph for you.

Michael Hoffman

Borehamwood 
HERTS UK

Hi Debbie,

My husband who is originally from St. Louis said to contact Berger Funeral Home and Rindskof
Funeral Homes as they may have records from that era.  

Anne Goldfarb (Chana Rachel Kean

In my research, I came across several children in my family under the age of one, that I had never heard about. It seems like it was common for the generation born in the nineteenth century to never speak of dead children. There may have been a superstition connected with it.
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Peter Cohen
California

You could also try www.findagrave.com . Sometimes there are already pictures posted. Otherwise you can request one. 
Arielle Sax